Friday, June 6, 2008
Stepford/Robot Boys
I enjoy being a Domme. I have one pet peeve, the Stepford Boys. You know the type, little boys that run around like robots. If I wanted a robot to deal with I would buy one. Don't get me wrong; I like a guy that takes orders. I don't like the guys that must agree with everything and don't think for themselves
Also the guys that play the game, "I am only hear to please you" bothers me. We all know that is Bull Shit. Just cut the chase, and be honest about what you like to do. If I enjoy it as well, I might consider participating. I know darn well that most of you aren't into extreme CBT, among other things. Neither am I, but I am honest enough to admit that
Also the guys that play the game, "I am only hear to please you" bothers me. We all know that is Bull Shit. Just cut the chase, and be honest about what you like to do. If I enjoy it as well, I might consider participating. I know darn well that most of you aren't into extreme CBT, among other things. Neither am I, but I am honest enough to admit that
Look into my Eyes
One of my biggest turns is making a submissive look into my eyes. There is something about pulling a submissive's hair and making him/her looks into my eyes. This little act can be quite intense. The submissive's eyes convey some many messages of helplessly and sometimes love. It makes me feel for a moment that I have total control. The submissive and I are in our own little world of power exchangeI can remember the first time, as though it was yesterday. He was sitting in a chair. I was towering above him. I remember pulling his head back. His eyes were looking up to me from below; conveying his willingness to submit to me. For that moment, I was in total control. It was the most erotic and intense plays, I had ever had.
Nothing to Prove
Sunday, April 09, 2006
My dear friend and I had very interesting discussion today. He wanted me to prove that I am into BDSM and that I am a Domme for myself.I have reached one conclusion. I have nothing to prove. I do not need to prove that I am Domme to anyone. I am who I am and that is all that matters. I know my nature and some of things I like. I am a Domme, because I enjoying being that.
My dear friend introduced me to what BDSM is and gave it a name for some of things I had experienced in the past. I am grateful for that. However, I am into being a Domme, because I enjoy the control, and not because someone else is into BDSM. I do things, because I enjoy them, and not because some else does. We have all tried different things, because some suggested them, but only continue do or using that thing, because we enjoy it.
BDSM and Scorpios
I found this article very interesting
BDSM Scorpio
Self-centered, always looking for mastery of themselves and their burning desires. Prone to self-destruction, unstoppable by difficulties, always looking for new struggles and challenges, Scorpios may be good friends or terrible foes.
Personality of people born under Scorpio's stars is basically self-centered. They devote all their efforts in search of the more complete and absolute mastery of themselves. Scorpios cannot stand failures. When Scorpios fails to control their burning desires, they may waste their life on drugs or alcohol addiction, destructing themselves with unstoppable determination. Scorpios hates superficiality, giving or receiving flattery in all its forms, and they love truth and hidden sides of things. If they are prone to self-destruction, external difficulties cannot stop them. On the contrary, Scorpios sometimes need resistance to go on. Too easy things are not for them. Scorpios are absolutely determinates: each time they find an obstacle, they work on it until they eliminate it. They venerate their own desires and they continually work to dominate them. In spite of every legal, social, moral or ethic limitation they forge their will under the fire of a stern self discipline and they rarely indulge on themselves. Due to this harsh self-treatment, they often turn out to celebrate themselves as gods and goddesses, using the power they developed in the relation with others.
Scorpios may be precious allied, and they use their energy to support the evolution of people around them, but they also can turn out to be very hard to handle. They can be immensely altruists, but in a moment they may turn utterly selfish with the same determination. They may be kind and respectful with someone as they can be devilish and cruel with someone else. Scorpios are actually very sensitive people, and they especially feels emotionally vulnerable by friends and relatives. That is why they carefully hide their vulnerability to others. Scorpios are not good subjects to trick. Most times they seem to be insensitive to attacks and offences, or even to physical injuries, and they even may react with indifference or unpredictable kindness to people treating them very badly. But all Scorpios are ultimately vindictive. Something about Scorpios are the eyes. They always shows tehir deep movements. For instance, when a Scorpio is happy, its eyes sparkle. When he is angry, they seem to shoot fire around, and when a Scorpio feels hurt, its eyes turn dark and dead like the ones of a shark. Fear such look: a hurt Scorpio will never be able to forget nor forgive the offence - he will patiently await the time to strike back at full force. He may take its revenge even after decades.
Scorpios are very industrious persons, in constant need to be busy. Their determination drive them to go on with their work skipping any other need, even sleeping or eating. This aspect makes them exceptional sources in case of emergencies. The problem is that they always work this way, forcing colleagues to keep their exhausting rhythm. They have a talent about regeneration and intuition. Thus they are often drawn to medical professions. There they seem to show a supernatural strength and capacity to overcome suffering, disease and death. The same power shows in the investigation-related jobs. Scorpios are excellent detectives, and they show unexplainable skills in understanding the criminals they hunt. Most Scorpios shows some extent of psychic powers and all of them are deeply attracted into mystery, unseen, occultism and generally every paranormal activity and phenomenon. Occasionally the psychic powers of Scorpios bring them disturbing visions and rarely even drive them to madness.
Most Scorpios hide inside their souls an unbelievable amount of passions, which they always try to dominate and control. Their love may be addictive, but also suffocating. Scorpios are very giving and demanding partners. Jealousy, possessiveness, anger and hate may bursts unexpected and devouring. When a Scorpio decide to hurt someone, he is always able to find the more evil and effective way to do it. They sense others weaknesses and vulnerabilities and may terribly determined in hitting there. Scorpios' sense of humor is often dark and sometimes incomprehensible.
Scorpios shows little or no trust in medicine. They simply deny themselves the right to be ill, until they definitely crashes. When their consistent resistance surrenders to a disease, they stop all activities and rely on enormous amount of medicaments. Bladder and genitals are the more vulnerable body areas of Scorpions. Abscesses, carbuncles, piles, ruptures and ulcers are also very common. The powerful energies that they hide inside must be released or they finally hurt them form the inside. Sports and physical activities are a must for Scorpios.
Planets: Ruled by Mars and Pluto
Star Chart: Rules the 8th house (Sex, death, regeneration).
Elements: Water sign
Body: Rules the sexual organs of the human body.
Sentence: I DESIRE
Colors: Deep red, Blood Red, Black
Stones: Opal, Blood red carnelian, Garnet
BDSM Gift: Leather tight clothings, severely in black.
BDSM ScorpioSelf-centered, always looking for mastery of themselves and their burning desires. Prone to self-destruction, unstoppable by difficulties, always looking for new struggles and challenges, Scorpios may be good friends or terrible foes.
always to EXTREME
Personality of people born under Scorpio's stars is basically self-centered. They devote all their efforts in search of the more complete and absolute mastery of themselves. Scorpios cannot stand failures. When Scorpios fails to control their burning desires, they may waste their life on drugs or alcohol addiction, destructing themselves with unstoppable determination. Scorpios hates superficiality, giving or receiving flattery in all its forms, and they love truth and hidden sides of things. If they are prone to self-destruction, external difficulties cannot stop them. On the contrary, Scorpios sometimes need resistance to go on. Too easy things are not for them. Scorpios are absolutely determinates: each time they find an obstacle, they work on it until they eliminate it. They venerate their own desires and they continually work to dominate them. In spite of every legal, social, moral or ethic limitation they forge their will under the fire of a stern self discipline and they rarely indulge on themselves. Due to this harsh self-treatment, they often turn out to celebrate themselves as gods and goddesses, using the power they developed in the relation with others.Scorpios may be precious allied, and they use their energy to support the evolution of people around them, but they also can turn out to be very hard to handle. They can be immensely altruists, but in a moment they may turn utterly selfish with the same determination. They may be kind and respectful with someone as they can be devilish and cruel with someone else. Scorpios are actually very sensitive people, and they especially feels emotionally vulnerable by friends and relatives. That is why they carefully hide their vulnerability to others. Scorpios are not good subjects to trick. Most times they seem to be insensitive to attacks and offences, or even to physical injuries, and they even may react with indifference or unpredictable kindness to people treating them very badly. But all Scorpios are ultimately vindictive. Something about Scorpios are the eyes. They always shows tehir deep movements. For instance, when a Scorpio is happy, its eyes sparkle. When he is angry, they seem to shoot fire around, and when a Scorpio feels hurt, its eyes turn dark and dead like the ones of a shark. Fear such look: a hurt Scorpio will never be able to forget nor forgive the offence - he will patiently await the time to strike back at full force. He may take its revenge even after decades.
Scorpios are very industrious persons, in constant need to be busy. Their determination drive them to go on with their work skipping any other need, even sleeping or eating. This aspect makes them exceptional sources in case of emergencies. The problem is that they always work this way, forcing colleagues to keep their exhausting rhythm. They have a talent about regeneration and intuition. Thus they are often drawn to medical professions. There they seem to show a supernatural strength and capacity to overcome suffering, disease and death. The same power shows in the investigation-related jobs. Scorpios are excellent detectives, and they show unexplainable skills in understanding the criminals they hunt. Most Scorpios shows some extent of psychic powers and all of them are deeply attracted into mystery, unseen, occultism and generally every paranormal activity and phenomenon. Occasionally the psychic powers of Scorpios bring them disturbing visions and rarely even drive them to madness.
Most Scorpios hide inside their souls an unbelievable amount of passions, which they always try to dominate and control. Their love may be addictive, but also suffocating. Scorpios are very giving and demanding partners. Jealousy, possessiveness, anger and hate may bursts unexpected and devouring. When a Scorpio decide to hurt someone, he is always able to find the more evil and effective way to do it. They sense others weaknesses and vulnerabilities and may terribly determined in hitting there. Scorpios' sense of humor is often dark and sometimes incomprehensible.
Scorpios shows little or no trust in medicine. They simply deny themselves the right to be ill, until they definitely crashes. When their consistent resistance surrenders to a disease, they stop all activities and rely on enormous amount of medicaments. Bladder and genitals are the more vulnerable body areas of Scorpions. Abscesses, carbuncles, piles, ruptures and ulcers are also very common. The powerful energies that they hide inside must be released or they finally hurt them form the inside. Sports and physical activities are a must for Scorpios.
SCORPIO and BDSM
If a zodiacal sign may represent BDSM then its surely the Scorpio. The attitude for domination /submission relationship is a fundamental part of its personality, which resounds for cruelty and power struggles. Scorpios are always fascinated with the power and its use, and they always push situations to the extreme. Such attitude makes Scorpios passionate but also risky partners: into BDSM they always push to the limits in both roles, and they are not satisfied until they reach and cross them. The fascination with black lingerie of Scorpios revels in spades its nature into BDSM and fetish, they can explore and express all their passion for dark and fetish clothing. Sometimes Scorpios may be even fanatic in their BDSM attitudes, treating the BDSM relation and apparel in a far too strict and involving way. Scorpios see everything as a challenge, and so will see the role-play situation: a challenge to be the "perfect" Dominant or the challenge to be the "perfect" submissive. As Dominants, Scorpios may be utterly cruel or very sweet, but they will always be very demanding and deep in their approach. They will always perceive the expectation and desires of their submissive and play on them. Scorpios are also particularly interested in Mindfucking and mind play. As submissive, Scorpios will always give themselves in full force, forcing the Dom to react or be outclassed. All submissive Scorpios top from the bottom to various extent. They may directly try to drive the situation to their desires or more subtly push the Dom to desire what they want. Given that, the dream of submissive Scorpios is to find a Dom able to understand them and fuck their always lucid and powerful mind - which rarely happens. Scorpio rules anus and genital areas - tease and denial, forced chastity and genital tortures will be surely among its favorites practices.Article by ad asTra
SCORPIO SCHEDE
Dates: From October 24 to November 22Planets: Ruled by Mars and Pluto
Star Chart: Rules the 8th house (Sex, death, regeneration).
Elements: Water sign
Body: Rules the sexual organs of the human body.
Sentence: I DESIRE
Colors: Deep red, Blood Red, Black
Stones: Opal, Blood red carnelian, Garnet
BDSM Gift: Leather tight clothings, severely in black.
First time at S&M Club, Darkside
On Saturday May 6, 2006, I went to my first S&M club called the Darkside. I had a wonderful time and can't wait to go again. I was actually topped. I was flogged and loved it. I will think about switching more often.
First Fetish Party
On 6/17/06, I went to DSF/Bacchus club Fetish party and Slave auction and had I wonderful time.
I experienced many new things as bottom, such as vampire gloves, crop, Wartenberg Wheel, OTK spanking, paddling, hard spanking and playing with a couple.
As I top, It was my first time to flog someone, use vampire gloves and wartenberg wheel, OTK spank, paddle, and hard spank people.
I also met some wonderful people.
Out of this experience, I learned OTK, hard spanking, and paddles are not to be used on me. I am no pain slut, when I bottom.
I experienced many new things as bottom, such as vampire gloves, crop, Wartenberg Wheel, OTK spanking, paddling, hard spanking and playing with a couple.
As I top, It was my first time to flog someone, use vampire gloves and wartenberg wheel, OTK spank, paddle, and hard spank people.
I also met some wonderful people.
Out of this experience, I learned OTK, hard spanking, and paddles are not to be used on me. I am no pain slut, when I bottom.
Don't Call Me Ma'am, Call me Lady
I hate it with a passion to be called Ma'am. I understand it's a sign of respect. However, I feel like an old lady every time. I am called that. I prefer Lady. I like the medieval connotations of the queen and her knight.
Don't Assume I will
While DSF/Bacchus club Fetish party and Slave auction, I had rude experience. One guy tried to have me give him a hand job, by putting my hand on his dick. I feel that is very rude. I agreed to OTK spank, but I was never asked about the hand job. After I told him no, He attempted to do that twice more. I then told him I was done spanking him.
I feel it took a lot of nerve to get me to give him a hand job without asking me first. Just because I am young for the scene, don't assume I will do what you want and will not say no.
I feel it took a lot of nerve to get me to give him a hand job without asking me first. Just because I am young for the scene, don't assume I will do what you want and will not say no.
First Major Event - TES Fest 06
I had a wonderful time meeting cool people from all over the place.
Some of the workshops I took were: Adversarial Play, Catalytic Scenes and Conscious Perversion, The Qualities of an Excellent Master, Fee- not only for the foot fetishist, Raising the Bar: Asking for more and getting it!, Knife Play, and The Fine Art of Lap Dancing.
Some of the events I went to were: Abusement Park, NYC Style Couples Meet and Greet, The Latex Pool Party, and Slave Auction.
During the Couples Meet and Greet, I met a cool FemDom couple that I could learn from and play with.
I found out that I really enjoy bondage and knife play. I entered my first Slave Auction, as switch, and was bought by a guy into bondage. I loved it. I asked a wonderful Domme join me in playing with the guy that won me. It was a very long and intense scene, which lasted over 3 hours. It was wonderful. I learned a lot from her. I realized I love knife play coupled with bondage.
Also realized that I was into Adversarial Play, before I knew that was what it is called.
Among other things, I learned that various scenes, such as foot worship, can be both a bottom and top act depending on the mind set of the people playing. Also, The Top is the top always, regardless of giving or receiving services. It all depends on the mind set of the top. For example, If a top likes to be tied up and tickled, He/she is still top, because he/she asked for those things and reinforced to the bottom that despite this act he/she is still top.
Some of the workshops I took were: Adversarial Play, Catalytic Scenes and Conscious Perversion, The Qualities of an Excellent Master, Fee- not only for the foot fetishist, Raising the Bar: Asking for more and getting it!, Knife Play, and The Fine Art of Lap Dancing.
Some of the events I went to were: Abusement Park, NYC Style Couples Meet and Greet, The Latex Pool Party, and Slave Auction.
During the Couples Meet and Greet, I met a cool FemDom couple that I could learn from and play with.
I found out that I really enjoy bondage and knife play. I entered my first Slave Auction, as switch, and was bought by a guy into bondage. I loved it. I asked a wonderful Domme join me in playing with the guy that won me. It was a very long and intense scene, which lasted over 3 hours. It was wonderful. I learned a lot from her. I realized I love knife play coupled with bondage.
Also realized that I was into Adversarial Play, before I knew that was what it is called.
Among other things, I learned that various scenes, such as foot worship, can be both a bottom and top act depending on the mind set of the people playing. Also, The Top is the top always, regardless of giving or receiving services. It all depends on the mind set of the top. For example, If a top likes to be tied up and tickled, He/she is still top, because he/she asked for those things and reinforced to the bottom that despite this act he/she is still top.
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